NHFA is a non-profit with a mission to “educate and empower families and communities to care for their own dead.” A great resource for home funerals.
From the NHFA
“…the only magazine on conscious, holistic approaches to end of life…Our vision is to provide education that can lead to a cultural shift in which death is embraced as a natural part of life.”
“A painless way to organize help. With the help calendar, you can post requests for support-things like meals for the family, rides to medical appointments, or just stopping by to visit. Members of your community can quickly find ways to help, and Lotsa will send reminders automatically so nothing falls through the cracks.”
“The goal of the Funeral Consumer Alliance is to ensure consumers are fully prepared and protected when planning a funeral for themselves or their loved ones. We do this by offering objective facts about funeral planning so families can plan a meaningful goodbye that fits their needs and their budget.”
“It’s ok to not be ok. If your life has exploded into a million little bits, you don’t need platitudes. You don’t need cheerleading. You don’t need to be told this all happened for a reason. Some things cannot be fixed. They can only be carried.”
For children who have experienced a death. “Judi’s House is the only free-standing organization in the Metro Denver area devoted solely to providing research-based care to grieving children and their families.”
Local grief support groups. Check out their calendar of events. “HeartLight Center provides affordable grief education and support for the Denver metropolitan community.”
“Grief and Love is a closed Facebook group for survivors. For those of us who have faced the death of a loved one, and are trying to find a path forward. This is a space to support one another. To offer ideas and encouragement, to connect with helpful resources, or others who are going through the same thing you are, and finally, to share stories of the ones we’ve lost.”
“The Conversation Project is a public engagement initiative with a goal that is both simple and transformative: to have every person’s wishes for end-of-life care expressed and respected. Too many people die in a manner they would not choose, and too many of their loved ones are left feeling guilty and uncertain…our free Starter Kit is a useful tool to help you have the conversation with a family member, friend, or loved one about your – or their- wishes regarding end-of-life care.
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Organ and tissue donation registry and FAQ
Free website and app where you can make your medical wishes known. “Emergencies can happen at any time, leaving you too injured or ill to communicate decisions about your medical treatment. MyDirectvies helps you create your own emergency, critical care, and advance care plan for your family and doctors so they can make decisions on your behalf.”
DEATH POSITIVE MOVEMENT
“The Order is about making death a part of your life. Staring down your death fears—whether it be your own death, the death of those you love, the pain of dying, the afterlife (or lack thereof), grief, corpses, bodily decomposition, or all of the above. Accepting that death itself is natural, but the death anxiety of modern culture is not.”
“At a Death Cafe people, often strangers, gather to eat cake, drink tea and discuss death. A Death Cafe is a group directed discussion of death with no agenda, objectives or themes. It is a discussion group rather than a grief support or counselling session.”
“We invite you to gather friends and family and fill a table. Click Get Started to plan a test dinner. We call it a test dinner because trying out this process in no way commits you to follow through with an actual dinner.”
“We believe all people should experience the end of life in a way that matches their values and goals. Our goal is to create a shift that supports new collaborations, systems, protocols, and products…a shift that fosters new and existing networks of support to make the end of life more human-centered for all.”
“The medical Pause is a practice implemented after the death of a patient. The practice offers closure to both the medical team and the patient. It is a means of transitioning and demarcating the brevity and importance of the moment.”
A production of the National Home Funeral Alliance, this podcast “demystifies the tasks related to after death care through hearing stories from people who have ventured into culturally unfamiliar territory and cared for their own deceased loved ones at home, chose a natural burial or both. Hearing what’s possible and how lives have been transformed by engaging in this final act of love is one path towards changing our culture and our relationship to death.”
Our Favorite Episodes:
“Real talk about life and death.” -Karen Wyatt
“You know how when someone asks “How are you?” you just say “Fine,” even if you’re totally dying inside, so everyone can go about their day? TTFA is the opposite of that. Nora McInerny asks real people to share complicated and honest feelings about how they really are. It’s sometimes sad, sometimes funny, and often both.”
“Funny people talking about death and grief” –Cariad Lloyd
“Dare to Listen invites conversations about the dying process, self-discovery, and our connections to the unseen.” –Nameh Marsin
The film showcases three families’ home funeral stories. “It is both a critical look at the American relationship with death and an inquiry into the home death-care movement.”
“A dying man searching for a final resting place becomes involved with the green burial movement.”
“Facing an inevitable outcome, terminally ill patients meet extraordinary medical practitioners seeking to change our approach to life and death.”
This film explores Oregon’s “Death with Dignity Act,” which allows physicians to prescribe lethal doses of drugs to the terminally ill.
This film documents an extraordinary hospice program where dying inmates are cared for by other volunteer inmates.
Steven Jenkinson on how “he has made it his life’s mission to change the way we die – to turn the act of dying from denial and resistance into an essential part of life.”
This film demystifies the nature of souls wounding in veterans, explains how environment can trigger past trauma in patients, and reveals how the caregiver can create a safe environment conducive to healing.
A film about a doctor’s decision to stop eating and drinking to ease his death and die with grace.
This is CW series where terminally ill people share their stories.
This is a Showtime series that “offers an unflinching, intimate look at remarkable people facing their own mortality.”
When a painful loss or life-shattering event upends your world, here is the first thing to know: there is nothing wrong with grief. “Grief is simply love in its most wild and painful form,” says Megan Devine. “It is a natural and sane response to loss.”
Life and death are a package deal. They cannot be pulled apart and we cannot truly live unless we are aware of death. The Five Invitations is an exhilarating meditation on the meaning of life and how maintaining an ever-present consciousness of death can bring us closer to our truest selves.
Long & Lynch “discuss several challenges facing ‘the good funeral,’ including the commercial aspects that have led many to be suspicious of funeral directors, the sometimes tense relationship between pastors and funeral directors, the tendency of modern funerals to exclude the body from the service, and the rapid growth in cremation.”
Grave Matters details the embalming process and the environmental aftermath of the standard funeral. Harris also traces the history of burial in America, from frontier cemeteries to the billion-dollar business it is today, reporting on real families who opted for more simple, natural returns.
“Toolis unforgettably describes his own father’s wake and explores the wider history and significance of this ancient and eternal Irish ritual. Perhaps we, too, can all find a better way to deal with our mortality–by living and loving as the Irish do.”
Remembering Well offers family members, clergy, funeral professionals, hospice workers, and other celebrants ways to plan services and rituals that honor the spirit of the deceased and are faithful to that person’s values and beliefs, while also respecting the needs and wishes of those who will attend the services.
Fascinated by our pervasive fear of dead bodies, mortician Caitlin Doughty set out to discover how other cultures care for the dead. From Here to Eternity is an immersive global journey that introduces compelling, powerful rituals almost entirely unknown in America.
Noted psychotherapist Francis Weller provides an essential guide for navigating the deep waters of sorrow and loss in this lyrical yet practical handbook for mastering the art of grieving. Describing how Western patterns of amnesia and anesthesia affect our capacity to cope with personal and collective sorrows, Weller reveals the new vitality we may encounter when we welcome, rather than fear, the pain of loss. Through moving personal stories, poetry, and insightful reflections he leads us into the central energy of sorrow, and to the profound healing and heightened communion with each other and our planet that reside alongside it.
Who Dies? is the first book to show the reader how to open to the immensity of living with death, to participate fully in life as the perfect preparation for whatever may come next. The Levines provide calm compassion rather than the frightening melodrama of death.
Die Wise does not offer seven steps for coping with death. It does not suggest ways to make dying easier. It pours no honey to make the medicine go down. Instead, with lyrical prose, deep wisdom, and stories from his two decades of working with dying people and their families, Stephen Jenkinson places death at the center of the page and asks us to behold it in all its painful beauty. Die Wise teaches the skills of dying, skills that have to be learned in the course of living deeply and well. Die Wise is for those who will fail to live forever.
Only the scathing wit and searching intelligence of Jessica Mitford could turn an exposé of the American funeral industry into a book that is at once deadly serious and side-splittingly funny. When first published in 1963, this landmark of investigative journalism became a runaway bestseller and resulted in legislation to protect grieving families from the unscrupulous sales practices of those in “the dismal trade.”
Stiff is an oddly compelling, often hilarious exploration of the strange lives of our bodies postmortem. For two thousand years, cadavers―some willingly, some unwittingly―have been involved in science’s boldest strides and weirdest undertakings. In this fascinating account, Mary Roach visits the good deeds of cadavers over the centuries and tells the engrossing story of our bodies when we are no longer with them.
Armed with a degree in medieval history and a flair for the macabre, Caitlin Doughty took a job at a crematory and turned morbid curiosity into her life’s work. She cared for bodies of every color, shape, and affliction, and became an intrepid explorer in the world of the dead. In this best-selling memoir, brimming with gallows humor and vivid characters, she marvels at the gruesome history of undertaking and relates her unique coming-of-age story with bold curiosity and mordant wit. By turns hilarious, dark, and uplifting, Smoke Gets in Your Eyes reveals how the fear of dying warps our society and “will make you reconsider how our culture treats the dead.”
Death is simply one more aspect of being a human being, but in our culture, we’ve made it a taboo. As a result, most of us walk through life with conscious or unconscious fears that prevent us from experiencing true contentment. Embracing the End of Life invites you to lean into your beliefs and questions about death and dying, helping you release tense or fearful energy and awaken to a more vital life now.
Decades after Jessica Mitford stunned America with vivid accounts of corruption and abuse in the death industry, not much has improved. Families are manipulated into buying expensive goods and services they don’t need or want. Prepaid funeral money vanishes into thin air. Body parts are sold on the black market. Eight states force families to pay a funeral director even if they conduct a home funeral with no need for help. But a consumer movement is no awakening, and Americans are asserting their rights over a key part of life, just as they did in the past with the natural childbirth and hospice movements. The two most prominent leaders of that movement are the authors of this book: Joshua Slocum, executive director of Funeral Consumers Alliance, and Lisa Carlson, executive director of Funeral Ethics Organization. Here they join forces to expose wrongdoing, inform consumers of their rights, and propose legal reforms. The book includes state-by-state summaries of laws, regulations, services, and consumer concerns.
Natural, legal, and innovative after-death care options are transforming the paradigm of the existing funeral industry, helping families and communities recover their instinctive capacity to care for a loved one after death and do so in creative and healing ways. Reimagining Death offers stories and guidance for home funeral vigils, advance after-death care directives, green burials, and conscious dying. When we bring art and beauty, meaningful ritual, and joy to ease our loss and sorrow, we are greening the gateway of death and returning home to ourselves, to the wisdom of our bodies, and to the earth.
Picture book of children finding a dead bird and saying goodbye by burying it in the park.
An elementary tale of the life cycle of a tree.
“People who love each other are always connected by a very special string, made of love. Even though you can’t see it with your eyes, you can feel it deep in your heart, and know that you are always connected to the ones you love.”
“After Grandpa dies, a young boy finds that the memories of him and his love live on everywhere he looks.”
“Honest and straightforward, this touching story explores the many emotions a bereaved child may experience, from anger and guilt to sadness and bewilderment. Ultimately, Missing Mommy focuses on the positive―the recognition that the child is not alone but still part of a family that loves and supports him.”