Need help covering funeral expenses? Dear Departures is a registered provider with Fund the Funeral, a crowd funding site used to raise money for funeral expenses, with fraud protection built in. Additional resources may be available through the Social Security Administration, Veterans Affairs, or the State Fund if the decedent qualifies. Please contact us for more information.
NHFA is a non-profit with a mission to “educate and empower families and communities to care for their own dead.” A great resource for home funerals.
From the NHFA
“…the only magazine on conscious, holistic approaches to end of life…Our vision is to provide education that can lead to a cultural shift in which death is embraced as a natural part of life.”
“A painless way to organize help. With the help calendar, you can post requests for support-things like meals for the family, rides to medical appointments, or just stopping by to visit. Members of your community can quickly find ways to help, and Lotsa will send reminders automatically so nothing falls through the cracks.”
“The goal of the Funeral Consumer Alliance is to ensure consumers are fully prepared and protected when planning a funeral for themselves or their loved ones. We do this by offering objective facts about funeral planning so families can plan a meaningful goodbye that fits their needs and their budget.”
“It’s ok to not be ok. If your life has exploded into a million little bits, you don’t need platitudes. You don’t need cheerleading. You don’t need to be told this all happened for a reason. Some things cannot be fixed. They can only be carried.”
For children who have experienced a death. “Judi’s House is the only free-standing organization in the Metro Denver area devoted solely to providing research-based care to grieving children and their families.”
Local grief support groups. Check out their calendar of events. “HeartLight Center provides affordable grief education and support for the Denver metropolitan community.”
“Grief and Love is a closed Facebook group for survivors. For those of us who have faced the death of a loved one, and are trying to find a path forward. This is a space to support one another. To offer ideas and encouragement, to connect with helpful resources, or others who are going through the same thing you are, and finally, to share stories of the ones we’ve lost.”
“The Conversation Project is a public engagement initiative with a goal that is both simple and transformative: to have every person’s wishes for end-of-life care expressed and respected. Too many people die in a manner they would not choose, and too many of their loved ones are left feeling guilty and uncertain…our free Starter Kit is a useful tool to help you have the conversation with a family member, friend, or loved one about your – or their- wishes regarding end-of-life care.
(Medical Order Scope of Treatment)
Organ and tissue donation registry and FAQ
Free website and app where you can make your medical wishes known. “Emergencies can happen at any time, leaving you too injured or ill to communicate decisions about your medical treatment. MyDirectvies helps you create your own emergency, critical care, and advance care plan for your family and doctors so they can make decisions on your behalf.”
DEATH POSITIVE MOVEMENT
“The Order is about making death a part of your life. Staring down your death fears—whether it be your own death, the death of those you love, the pain of dying, the afterlife (or lack thereof), grief, corpses, bodily decomposition, or all of the above. Accepting that death itself is natural, but the death anxiety of modern culture is not.”
“At a Death Cafe people, often strangers, gather to eat cake, drink tea and discuss death. A Death Cafe is a group directed discussion of death with no agenda, objectives or themes. It is a discussion group rather than a grief support or counselling session.”
“We invite you to gather friends and family and fill a table. Click Get Started to plan a test dinner. We call it a test dinner because trying out this process in no way commits you to follow through with an actual dinner.”
“We believe all people should experience the end of life in a way that matches their values and goals. Our goal is to create a shift that supports new collaborations, systems, protocols, and products…a shift that fosters new and existing networks of support to make the end of life more human-centered for all.”
“The medical Pause is a practice implemented after the death of a patient. The practice offers closure to both the medical team and the patient. It is a means of transitioning and demarcating the brevity and importance of the moment.”
Our Favorite Episodes:
“Real talk about life and death.” -Karen Wyatt
“You know how when someone asks “How are you?” you just say “Fine,” even if you’re totally dying inside, so everyone can go about their day? TTFA is the opposite of that. Nora McInerny asks real people to share complicated and honest feelings about how they really are. It’s sometimes sad, sometimes funny, and often both.”
“Funny people talking about death and grief” –Cariad Lloyd
“Dare to Listen invites conversations about the dying process, self-discovery, and our connections to the unseen.” –Nameh Marsin
The film showcases three families’ home funeral stories. “It is both a critical look at the American relationship with death and an inquiry into the home death-care movement.”
“A dying man searching for a final resting place becomes involved with the green burial movement.”
“Facing an inevitable outcome, terminally ill patients meet extraordinary medical practitioners seeking to change our approach to life and death.”
This film explores Oregon’s “Death with Dignity Act,” which allows physicians to prescribe lethal doses of drugs to the terminally ill.
This film documents an extraordinary hospice program where dying inmates are cared for by other volunteer inmates.
Steven Jenkinson on how “he has made it his life’s mission to change the way we die – to turn the act of dying from denial and resistance into an essential part of life.”
This film demystifies the nature of souls wounding in veterans, explains how environment can trigger past trauma in patients, and reveals how the caregiver can create a safe environment conducive to healing.
A film about a doctor’s decision to stop eating and drinking to ease his death and die with grace.
My Last Days
This is CW series where terminally ill people share their stories.
This is a Showtime series that “offers an unflinching, intimate look at remarkable people facing their own mortality.”
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Picture book of children finding a dead bird and saying goodbye by burying it in the park.
An elementary tale of the life cycle of a tree
“People who love each other are always connected by a very special string, made of love. Even though you can’t see it with your eyes, you can feel it deep in your heart, and know that you are always connected to the ones you love.”
“After Grandpa dies, a young boy finds that the memories of him and his love live on everywhere he looks.”
“Honest and straightforward, this touching story explores the many emotions a bereaved child may experience, from anger and guilt to sadness and bewilderment. Ultimately, Missing Mommy focuses on the positive―the recognition that the child is not alone but still part of a family that loves and supports him.”