What is a home funeral?
Home funerals, also known as family-directed funerals, are when family or friends choose to care for (bathe, dress, etc.) and spend time with a deceased loved one in the comfort and privacy of their home. By cooling the body with dry-ice or specialty ice packs, a body can be preserved for several days, while loved ones gather to love and honor the person who has died.
Are home funerals legal?
Yes! Unfortunately, it is possible that coroners, hospital staff, first responders, and/or funeral homes may try to tell you otherwise. Even professionals are misinformed about the legality surrounding home funerals. We can help properly inform anyone you may be getting push-back from. If someone says you “can’t” have a home funeral, ask them to show you the law or statute to back-up their claim. Spoiler alert…they won’t find one. The only legal requirement is that the body be cooled within 24 hours, and that is done with dry ice or Techni-Ice packs.
What are the benefits of home funerals?
Intimacy, Privacy & Comfort: Home funerals allow family and friends to be in the presence of the body, while they gather and mourn in the privacy and comfort of their own home/space. Eat, drink, cry, laugh, sing, swear, keen.
Time & Flexibility: Rather than being limited to a two-hour viewing (for example) at a funeral home, home funerals can allow for several days of being in the presence of the body. This provides everyone the ability to have meaningful time with the departed, rather than just taking a quick peek into a casket. Home funerals are accommodating to a variety of schedules, in order to allow as many people as possible to spend time with the departed, without restrictive time constraints.
Affordability: Not having to use a funeral home cuts down on a number of costs, including charges for things like embalming, cosmetizing, the viewing itself, and more. Of course, home funerals can be as lavish as one wishes, however, many home funeral families are thrilled to not spend an exorbitant amount of money.
Empowerment: We have only outsourced the care of our dead for a century or so. Home funerals are a reclamation in trusting in our abilities to care for our own, as a final act of love and tenderness.
Eco-Friendly: Embalming (an invasive chemical process of preserving a body) is not required by law, and is not needed to have a home funeral.
Are home funerals safe?
Yes. A dead body poses no more risk than a living body. Even in the case of infectious diseases like HIV and Hepatitis, you would take the same precautions interacting with the decedent as you did when they were alive. Additionally, cooling a body slows the decomposition process.
What form of preservation is used in a home funeral ?
With dry ice, or preferably Techni-Ice packs, which are a special type of polymer gel ice pack that stay frozen/cold longer than other ice packs. Techni Ice packs function like dry ice without the risk of burns and carbon dioxide off-gas.
Is home funeral possible after a death outside of the home?
Yes. While the most logistically convenient type of home funeral occurs after an expected home death, home funeral is possible in the event of deaths that occur outside of the home. Depending on the circumstances of the death, the departed may have to go to a coroner’s office, where they may or may not be autopsied. Once the departed is ready to be released from the hospital or coroner, they can be transported wherever need be. There are options for addressing things like accidents, trauma to the body, autopsied decedents, etc. This may include keeping the body wrapped in a shroud. In extreme cases, we can connect families to a trustworthy, licensed reconstructionist.
Is home funeral possible after an autopsy?
Yes. Coroners offices do not always do a great job of closing an autopsy incision, because most times the decedent will be going to a funeral home, who “cleans them up.” It is best to tell the coroner’s office that a home funeral will be taking place, and that you would like them take care, and close this incision well. That being said, it is important to be aware of the potential need for additional clean up, bandaging, etc.
Is home funeral possible after organ/tissue/bone donation?
Yes. Donor Alliance, when informed that a family is opting for home funeral, takes that into consideration when recovering organ/tissue/bone in terms of how much they recover, and the condition they release the decedent in.
Do we have to hire a Funeral Director in Colorado?
No. Some states require the use of a Funeral Director to complete death certificate paperwork, and/or to transport a body. Colorado is not one of those states. You can opt for cremation services through Dear Departures, or use a separate funeral home or crematory, if you’d like. If you are seeking a burial, we can coordinate with the cemetery.
How is a Celebrant different from other officiants?
Celebrants differ from other officiants in that they craft fully personalized funerals and living funerals, true to who the person being honored is/was. Most officiants have a go-to script that they use for all of their funerals and they just change out a few things (like the name) whereas Celebrants, as story tellers, take time to gather as much unique information as they can in order to create a personalized ceremony. They provide the full script to the family for review, approval, and edits if time allows.
What are the benefits of having a Death Doula?
Hospice nurses, chaplains, and social workers are often spread thin. Doulas work alongside hospice, in a support role, helping to fill in the gaps. Doulas offer emotional support, as well as non-medical care in the form of respite, caregiving, legacy projects, meaning making, vigil planning, funeral planning, and so much more.
Are Death Doulas covered by insurance?
No. At this time, all charges incurred are paid out-of-pocket.
Can I use my FSA or HSA to pay for an Death Doula?
No. At this time, Death Doula services are not eligible FSA/HSA expenses.